Imagine your last experience at the DMV, and do the opposite. I love this phrase as a greeting, since it's polite but also packed with meaning. Being polite costs nothing. These are the kinds of introductory phrases that are conspicuous by their absence. Or any phrase through which you're subtly suggesting that you'd like to do a small favor for someone. It's a big pet peeve for me when people say "No problem" instead of "You're welcome.
We live in an informal world for the most part, but trust me on this one. If someone has earned a degree or a position with a title, they've put a lot of their life's effort into achieving and perfecting it. So address them by it, at least once in your conversation. Even if they respond with, "No, please, call me Bill," they'll appreciate it. Cordiality is step one; frankly it's about as far as a lot of people get. Think of how many times you've been at a networking event or in a social situation where you and another person can't keep the conversation going past "hello.
To take things a bit further, think about what most people like to talk about more than anything else in the world: themselves! Then, give them an opportunity. They'll likely open up. A few examples:. Tell me about what?
Where did you get that jacket? What mode of transportation did you take to get here? What's the best vacation you've been on? Who's the one person you want to meet tonight and why? Anything to give the other person a chance to start talking about what he or she wants, believes, or has experienced. Obviously this only works if you actually know something that the other person might be willing to share.
It's effective because you're giving the other person a head's up that you're truly interested in what it is that you're asking them to talk about. Boom, same thing. Of course, in this case you have to introduce the person to a third person, but it works wonders. You're basically inviting another person to hold court for an audience. For some people, there's no greater compliment. Recognition is related to interest, but it adds a component of reaction. You're not just telling the person that you're interested in them, you're verifying that they've had some kind of impact on you.
That assuages one of the darkest fears that most of us carry inside somewhere: that we don't have an impact on other people. Each of these phrases, when used sincerely, indicates to another person that they have value in your eyes. How can anyone fail to react positively? Again: Finish the sentence any way you can. If you know the person a bit, you might say that you're impressed by how they always have great stories about the weekend, or always eat healthy food in the office.
Don't know them? Be impressed by how they manage to carry their bag and coat at the same time. Just recognize something about them, and tell them. This one is like the last suggestion, squared. We all wonder what other people think of us. Here, you're telling them -- hopefully about something great.
Other similar phrases: "People love that you If you've had at least one previous interaction with someone, this can be a wonderful phrase. Maybe you took their suggestion -- and went back and got your master's degree.
Maybe you've never met them before today, but on their advice you tried the little crab pastries that the waiters were offering. People like to give advice that other people follow, especially when it works. Everybody loves hearing this. Especially if you're a fast thinker who takes pride in advancing other people's ideas, trust me: Take a breath and acknowledge that the other person had a good idea.
Letting them know that you think they're right will lead them to like you more. Most of us want to do better -- and we often are able to most effectively improve when someone tells us they think we have room to do so.
I remember telling an old boss about a coup I'd pulled off -- only to have him up the ante and challenge me to do even better.
It's hard to explain, but the fact that he wasn't satisfied made me less satisfied, and I ran out to put his suggestion into action. You can see here how this builds on the recognition phrases from the previous section. Subscribe to America's largest dictionary and get thousands more definitions and advanced search—ad free! Log in Sign Up. Thesaurus exciting adjective. Save Word. Words Related to exciting.
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