How is life without love

Never remarried, not even close. My H treated me badly, took my property. I worked a lot and never met another man to love. I used to go to the gym regularly, took exercise classes. I never met anyone there. I am so lonely. I need to move to be in an area where there are more older single people. Life is pointless without love. Not me. I have a few friends in another city. I need to move closer to my friends. Will I just die in my bed one day and no one will notice?

How will I cope alone if I get seriously ill? This is not how humans are intended to live. I feel exactly every word you wrote. Long post alert…i was born to a drunkard mum and father, a last born of three, and came out significantly smaller than normal. My father was very abusive and would always come home drunk and start beating us up for no reason. At that time it was just me a 4-year old boy then , my slightly elder sister who was around 6 years old , and mum.

My other brother is ten years older than me and was staying with my grandma during that period. One day my dad came home completely wasted, started peeing and shitting in the bathroom as usual, and then took out his belt and started hitting us with it. Things spiraled out of control when he took a knife and hurled it at my sister, missing her by a whisker.

This was when my mum decided she had had enough and fled us to my grandma the following day. My mother developed depression and became addicted to cigarettes and alcohol, eventually becoming unemployable and losing her job in the city. When she officially moved in with us, i was given the smaller room my brother used to stay in and grew up virtually isolated.

My mother continued with her self destructive behavior and i engrossed myself in my books. The worst part was that i had a weird body extremely small head compared to my body , probably because of my mother drinking and smoking during my pregnancy, and was constantly made fun of in high school. I remember one boy telling me that my head was so small, it could fit in his hands like a baseball ;.. I survived the four years naturally isolating myself just like i did at home, until i graduated and left the school, having picked up virtually no socialization skills.

I turned to writing and two years later about two years ago , my mother died of breast cancer. My grandma followed suit mostly from the depression that followed and we were basically left to take care of ourselves. I decided to leave after people started quarreling over inheritance issues, and have been living alone ever since. My neighbors think am a weirdo and avoid me as much as possible. I just stumbled on this page as I am looking for answers to these difficult life questions myself.

I read your story and I am saddened that nobody has replied to your message yet. Your story touched me and you have definitely not been blessed with many things in your life. If you want to chat, I am here for you. Not sure how this page works, if you would even be able to see my email address and send me a private message? Good lord Ric, that is tragic and yet you are clearly stronger than any one.

If you look here again do say hi. Love to you. Hey if you ever want to chat to someone just let me know,im so sorry people have treated you like that,i really hope your well and get in touch. Kind regards samantha. I was just looking for answers for my life without love. But when I read your massage I realized that I have been loved by parents and they still do. I might not have a partner to love me but still I have my parents and my brother.

You are very strong and god is looking at you. Just try to talk to people and let them get to know real you. First give thanks to god for everything. God bless you Ric. Ur story is very very sad …. I honestly think ppl need license to have kids , show they r capable of logic thinking ,they r not addicted 2 drugs etc ….. I think U need to stop thinking about Ur past …and go out from Ur house and start to meet ppl , if U r concern about UR looks U can always hang out with disabled folks who are very down to earth and they dont pay attention that much at the physical beauty , also U can volunteer at the animal shelters ,homeless shelters , kids hospitals etc ….

Dont give into depression try to build Ur self confidence ,there r like million U tube vids about it …change the posture , look at ppl eyes straight …make some money ,travel etc..!!!! Dont focus on what U can not do only on what can U do …!!.. Ric, do I understand correctly that you make a living from writing? I found your life story very interesting to read and I think it sounds like in spite of your isolation and lack of familial or other relationships as you were growing up that you ARE a good writer!

You also seem to have not only survived your childhood loneliness but somehow come out the other side a stronger person for it! Luckily, my daughter and I are very, very close. What I would say to you is maybe you could use your writing to reach out to people, because you do have a gift for it. I know this was written 3 years ago and so much has happened since including our current pandemic situation which has, of course, isolated us all to some degree!

But IF you read this, I found wisdom and a sort of pragmatic hopefulness in your tone. I am a special education teacher precisely because I dearly loved my brother and have tried to be an advocate for him, to be his voice. I also used to be an adviser and on the Board of Directors with Joan Cusak for a program called Best Buddies that tries to match up individuals with disabilities with a friend.

But we all need friends. A very real and important kind of love. Aloha Nui Loa my friend! Those are my pills at night and after watching, I can only say his name in my sleep. I used to see my condition as a test. Now, I am in struggling emotion to fight the urge to have another round of romantic association in my path.

But I know, I am not flirtatious. I am on twitter but all I do is tweeting Google photos of desirable men, captioning I am his. As a muslim, I devote night and day but sometimes I feel all is just a routine. I fear death. My religion condemn who is a homosexual. Though, I still pray to my God but the urge to wanting to belong, to love and beloved; is so strong. In this pandemic time, I still have a job and money.

Now if only my paycheck can order a romane fling online, I might try. Love does not come on my doorstep anymore. Yes, I still have my mom, bless her soul for the home cooked meal at dinner time, as I still am living with her and I keep my status a lifelong secret. My HIV treatment is put on hold blood test etc. I try to feel young, I do home wotkout, and I know my hair is receding. I am not handsome as I used to think. Never I always say, I am super hot even from the start of being gay myself.

I miss when guys around look at me and my beauty. I miss it. I might die alone. I envy youngsters with looks and ambitions plus a body to die for and easily can hookup anytime without worry. I worry. I worry a lot.

Sex deprivation is my partner in sleep. Luckily I still awake in the morning. I am torn. Hello Roger, Thank you for visiting my blog and your heartfelt and honest comment. As I read your comment, I immediately sensed the emotional pains and loneliness you have been experiencing.

Also the sexual temptations and complications of your medical condition. However I also reflected on your obvious intelligence and creative use of language. I found myself wondering how you might bring those virtues to your social interactions and relationships with people in your community. Responding to sexual desires as the need arises is a part of life but also inherently limited in scope.

I imagined that at 38 years of age, it may be time now to develop your social relationships and get involved in social activities that have deeper meaning for you and others. Activities that will bring you into contact with selected people in a common cause that will be enriching and allow others to witness your virtues as well. In my psychological work with middle-aged people, I have noticed that there often comes a time when a person realizes that they need more in their life than temporary excitations.

I have seen people go through these changes and as a consequence meet quality like-minded people where love can sometimes spontaneously develop. I hope my words have encouraged you to think about what you as a unique individual have to offer, and how that might change your life.

Good luck. Be well, Dr. I am almost 65 and have never known love. Same as Randy I have never had a relationship. Of course I think about love and wonder what it and female companionship would be like. I always will and I do wish that I had known female attention. My life has always been filled with many interests like going out to hear live music, watching good movies and sports and talking to people I meet. My point is that you can survive and enjoy many things in life even without love.

Like traveling the world, saving the world, activism, art, etc. Having known that, I have something to use as a means of knowing how that looks and feels.

Could be an aspergers male. But I am boxed in — no income of my own now. Very hard caring for a man who gives nothing back except a pay packet. I am just your replica down here in Nigeria, Africa. I have adult children. All have college degrees except the youngest graduating in medicine next year. Extended family culture is beginning to die out in Nigeria. The children tend to mind their own essentially. Practically, humans are basically selfish. I am learning to enjoy aloneness without loneliness.

I have now time to to live music concerts, stadiums, library, evangelism, witnessing etc. I divert my energy to these things. I think this what they call sublimation. Nigerian here too. Am 30, I sincerely love had 3 strong relationships with girls in different periods. I am very romantic person. I was deceived and now am feeling to live without love and wish I could do so while enjoying my career and not hurting anyone, Just living without love attention.

I think my life could better if could live, working, going out and making money. I surrendered. What is there is difficult but the sea must live. Best regards for all. Love is something that you give not that you receive! When you love others you have love in your life! I sell online and I like to give small fee gift with purchases …its so funny how ppl freak out when they get something free extra , some are literally moved to tears …some comeback and buy more …..

Not necessarily. I know from experience. I still love my ex divorced 33 yrs ago. I loved him while we were married. It did no good. My life is to bear loneliness. No significant other, no children. The future looks bleak. Love is one of the reasons for being. I know how you feel. I hope you can find someone soon. Do you know about Daily Strength online? I go there sometimes when I am feeling particularly awful and people there get it and you can chat with them.

I am looking forward to the end of my life, I am My life is a torment. I hope the afterlife is peaceful. Maybe see you on daily strength sometime. I belong to the depression group. Its depressing, lonely, unsatisfying, and makes me feel less of a man. I still cant accept it even though my fate is sealed. I dont know how to get women..

I wish I could come to grips with it, but I cant. I know it is hard as I also feel lonely at I pray that the rest of my life and yours gets a bit better.

I volunteer with seniors and this helps give a sense of purpose. Hi Richard, Thank you for visiting and commenting on my blog. As an animal lover myself, I certainly understand the great comfort that a loyal cat can provide. I can remember a period in my life where I lived as a single man in NYC with two cats. They were my family at that time in my life. I do believe that the 4th decade in life can be a special time of change.

The mid-point in life, when a person looks at their life and decides what changes they need to make. Someone once confirmed this idea by saying that when you are in your 40s you are old enough to look back at life that has been lived and young enough to make whatever changes are needed to get what you want.

However, making changes in yourself may need to occur before those goals can be obtained. Finding out what changes need to be made is something that can be accomplished by finding a supportive therapist or counselor with the objective of helping you define and make the necessary changes.

I know that this is possible because as a psychotherapist I have helped people such as yourself make the changes they need to make in themselves that made goals such as love and family much easier to obtain.

I hope this has been helpful to you and gave you something to think about. Again thank you for visiting and commenting on my blog. Hi Im a 63 yr old femae and been told I look good for m age and have never had anyone give me commitment, ive had many boyfriends and they have all walked away from me. Ive given my heart out so many times to have it thrown back at me. I ask myself what am i doing her and what is my purpose what have i ended up like this and …yes contemplated ending it as I cant move forward.

Im sick of trying and sick of being rejected. Ive never had true love as a child or adult …so whats next and how Im i going to end up…. One of the biggest challenges in life is to overcome our past hurts and losses so that we can live to our fullest potential in the present. I also know from your comment that the unresolved hurt has influenced how you feel as well as your relationships.

I met and treated so many people over the years that got into patterns of finding the same hurtful relationships over and over again.

And in most cases they were not aware of how they were doing so. When a person becomes aware of their relationship patterns they can then make changes to improve their chances of having a more satisfying love life. Also, and more importantly, because the pain of what you have felt can be so overwhelming you have contemplated suicide, I strongly recommend that you get yourself evaluated for treatment.

Having someone to talk to about your feelings and disappointments will be a great relief to you and help you figure out what changes you need to make in order to change the direction of your life and love life. I recommend you do this right away. Learning how to take care of ourselves, is the first step in changing our lives for the better.

I have that in my husband and appreciate it. But the absence of romantic love is painful, barely tolerable. But for the sake of the young children we have, we go on. And on. You are not alone. I have same with my wife. Hardly a companionship and NO love. My son is in college and the daughter is still in school 7 more years to go before college. I love my children, and divorce will be devastating for my daughter. Life is a prison solitary confinement and I wonder what will it be like if I am released from it after 7 years?

I am lonely too in my marriage. I want to set free myself, and wonder what it will be like……. It is hard, I feel my life has no meaning at all.

As an asexual I have been condemned by society to a loveless life, this life without love is not living but merely existing. Evey day wake up with the feeling,someone will be there.. But after the death of my parents,no one really was there.. Without the precious thing call Love,My mind is everywhere…. I made a Facebook group called : Giving up on love -living a single life , so if any or all of you could join ,i would be very happy. I would join if it were a secret group.

I have seen many of my friends get hurt because of that thing. What could the meaning be of a life without love? Wow, I too am Pete aged My last relationship was when I was I have never actually been on a date, apart from the 35 where I was either stood up or they ran away screaming as soon as they saw me. All I know is that every single woman on the planet finds me utterly revolting, repulsive, and disgusting. I have spent the last three decades trying to figure out why — and at this point I have to accept that no-one is ever going to be able to tell me.

The rest of my life is great — good health, fit and slim, kind friends, never really cared about money adept at living like a pauper and genuinely not bothered about it , plenty of things to keep me interested, and a deep love of nature. I hate being alone at I have been a carer to both my mother and father. I care for my son, who is 25 with depression. Life is hell. And I feel I have been robbed of the right to live as a human being should.

Life without love tears me apart. Maybe so. But i have felt love and still feel it towards people around me and towards stuff i do. Therefore i cant say i live without love and i think nobody really live without feeling it, things you like are also feeling love towards them. Two years ago i met one boy and we were together for a really little time. But the time didnt matter it was special, he was special.

Now, 2 years later i still love him and think he is special, eventhough i know its only onesided and we cant never be together. I think we are here, in this planet and in this life for experiences. Feeling things love is part of it. Helping and listening others is what i enjoy the most about life and it also helped me to learn how to live without love companion. It is crushing and painful sometimes but if i want to be happy i need to push down my feelings and learn to live without them, to do that i need to be aware of them and accept them and find other ways to feel love friends, sport and other stuff.

This is my opinion at least. Sorry about my grammar, english is not my first language. Truth be told, I am frightened, truly afraid of what will come, what the time has in storage. And due to various experiences, I just had to turn out to become a homosexual… can you believe the irony? I love myself and I accept myself as I am, I tell that to myself everyday. I seek to befriend myself and all the demons of mine, what would I do if I were truly alone in this vast, cold world?

Guess what though? I just wish for happiness, since love is something I can never have, other than unrequited love. What actually helps ease the pain, the thundering, raging heart, is writing poems, or working on book writing.

Makes me actually write hell of a good stuff! I often also listen to music soundtracks, classic, opera, whatever sounds good at the moment , play computer games keeps mind busy , exercise daily that feeling getting out of the house! I slack off because I have no real motivation or ambition may be for reasons others have mentioned above. I live vegan lifestyle. For those of us, you, the ones living without love; I wish you good luck and happiness. It has been nearly two and a half years since you wrote this and I found it just now.

It is inspiring how you are trying to manage your life. It is true that a life without love is crushing at times but it also provides one with time to explore oneself and the world at large. Keep reading and writing and doing all the stuff that make your life meaningful. I would really like to come in touch with you and correspond via email. Much love much trial, but what an utter desert is life without love. A life without love, without the presence of the beloved, is nothing but a mere magic-lantern show.

We draw out slide after slide, swiftly tiring of each, and pushing it back to make haste for the next. We must rejoice when love is great, and pardon its excess, for love is the staff of life, and life without love is life in vain.

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Search this website. A life without Love is no life at all. Also, someone loving you does not give your life meaning. Love should be shared. It is not selfish. Love is never up and down. But one thing is sure: we are nothing without love! Love is so weird. It can bring us a lot of joy but it can also cause a lot of pain. We may say we never want to love again, but then we get hit with cupid's arrow. I honestly don't think we can live without it.

It's programmed in our DNA to love one another. Especially that other special someone when they come around. If there is no love, what is there to live for? I think everyone knows and wants the love but to achieve it is very difficult. All this life in this world seems to be the way for people to find love like this. If there is no love, the meaning of life itself will disappear.